Dear Friends….If your fragility prevents you from facing the ways racial biases are manifested in your actions, you’ll never be able to change it. There be must be a shift of your focus from your “good nature and intentions”, which prioritizes your feelings over the pain associated to your actions. A much more positive and impactful outcome  will be achieved when you focused your attention on addressing the very real, very valid concern about your contributions to racial bias and injustice.

Try stepping back and listening objectively when someone gives feedback.

If that makes you uncomfortable, it’s time to practice sitting with and learning from your discomfort instead of assuming that it means you’re under attack.